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At a glance
In this guide you’ll learn:
- Why meetings can be mentally draining.
- How cognitive, social and sensory demands combine during meetings.
- Why feeling exhausted afterwards doesn’t mean you weren’t paying attention.
- How understanding these demands can help you better support your nervous system.
Have you ever left a meeting…
And felt completely exhausted?
Perhaps the meeting only lasted an hour.
You spent most of it sitting still.
You weren’t doing physically demanding work.
Yet afterwards, you felt mentally drained.
You struggled to concentrate.
Your motivation disappeared.
You wanted some quiet before doing anything else.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Many people find meetings to be one of the most demanding parts of the working day.
A meeting is more than listening
From the outside, meetings can look simple.
People sit together.
Talk.
Share ideas.
Make decisions.
But your brain may be doing much more than simply listening.
It may also be:
- Following multiple conversations.
- Remembering key points.
- Planning what you want to say.
- Deciding when it’s appropriate to speak.
- Trying not to interrupt.
- Interpreting tone of voice.
- Reading facial expressions.
- Noticing body language.
- Filtering background noise.
- Taking notes.
- Keeping track of the agenda.
Each of these tasks requires mental effort.
Together, they create a significant cognitive load.
Social processing takes energy
Meetings are often highly social environments.
You may find yourself wondering:
“Is now the right time to speak?”
“Did I explain that clearly?”
“Have I spoken too much?”
“Should I say something… or stay quiet?”
These thoughts can happen in the background while you’re still trying to follow the discussion.
Even if nobody else notices, your brain may be working incredibly hard.
Sensory demands don’t stop
Many meeting spaces include constant sensory input.
Perhaps there are:
- Bright lights.
- Air conditioning.
- Several conversations.
- Chairs scraping.
- People moving around the room.
- Projectors or large screens.
- Background office noise.
- Strong smells from food or perfume.
None of these experiences may seem overwhelming on their own.
Together, they can gradually increase your sensory load.
The pressure to respond
Many meetings also require quick thinking.
Someone asks a question.
Everyone looks at you.
You need to:
Understand the question.
Organise your thoughts.
Choose your words.
Speak clearly.
Monitor other people’s reactions.
All within a matter of seconds.
For some people, that rapid shift from listening to responding can be particularly demanding.
Online meetings can be exhausting too
Working remotely doesn’t always reduce the mental effort.
Video meetings often introduce different challenges.
You may find yourself:
Watching multiple faces on screen.
Looking at your own image.
Managing audio delays.
Trying not to talk over other people.
Interpreting facial expressions through a screen.
Switching between documents and the meeting.
Concentrating for long periods without natural movement.
Although the environment is different, the mental demands can still be substantial.
Recovery matters
Feeling tired after a meeting doesn’t necessarily mean the meeting went badly.
It may simply mean your nervous system has been working hard.
Giving yourself a few quiet minutes afterwards…
Stretching.
Getting a drink.
Taking a short walk.
Or simply allowing your brain to pause before the next task…
Can sometimes help your nervous system reset before moving on.
A small step you can take today
After your next meeting, ask yourself:
“What was the most demanding part?”
Was it following the conversation?
The social interaction?
The sensory environment?
The pressure to contribute?
Understanding what used the most energy can help you recognise your own patterns.
You’re not alone
If meetings leave you feeling far more exhausted than the people around you seem to be…
You’re not alone.
Meetings don’t just ask you to think.
They ask your brain to listen, remember, interpret, filter, communicate, regulate emotions and respond—often all at the same time.
That’s a lot to ask of any nervous system.
Recognising those hidden demands doesn’t mean you’re making excuses.
It means you’re beginning to understand why meetings can require so much energy.
Key takeaways
- Meetings involve far more than simply listening.
- Cognitive, social and sensory demands often happen at the same time.
- Both in-person and online meetings can be mentally exhausting.
- Feeling drained afterwards doesn’t mean you weren’t coping—it may reflect how much your nervous system was processing.
- Understanding what you find most demanding can help you better support your wellbeing.
Continue your journey
The parts of meetings that drain your energy aren’t always obvious while they’re happening. Looking back over your experiences can help you identify which situations increase your cognitive load and which strategies help you recover.
AuDHD Companion helps you track your mood, energy, spoons, anxiety, overwhelm, sensory load, sleep and daily reflections over time. As patterns begin to emerge, you may find it easier to understand which work environments, communication styles and routines best support your nervous system, allowing you to plan your workday in a way that’s more sustainable.
This guide is intended for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for personalised medical advice, assessment or treatment. If workplace demands are significantly affecting your wellbeing or ability to function, consider discussing your concerns with a qualified healthcare professional or another appropriate source of support.